It’s my birthday today and my first day being in my thirties. That’s right, it’s my 30th birthday today. If you had asked me a couple of years ago about being nearly 30, I would have completely freaked out but now I’m pretty cool with it. It feels just the same as my twenties but I’m wiser now with life experiences behind me. As you are reading this, I will be in Germany celebrating with my husband so of course I’m just assuming at this point that being 30 will feel the same as being in my twenties. And while I may no longer be freaking out about ‘getting old’, reaching my 30th has made me think a lot about what I want to do with my life over the next 10 years. What goals I want to achieve, things I want to do and where I see myself being by the time I reach 40 (now that’s a scary age). So what better way to sort out what I’m thinking than in a blog post right?!
01. Being Super Fit
I’ve been seeing my personal trainer Mike now for 18 months and it’s going well. Sure, it could have been going better if I had been more focused but I’m trying to not dwell on that. I’ve made really good progress these last couple of months. I can do a lot more sustained cardio and I actually have some muscle in my arms. These improvements have done wonders for my motivation as I actively find myself wanting to go to the gym and workout opposed to making excuses. So over the next 12 months, I plan to keep pushing myself and maybe have an ab or two by the time I’m 31?
02. Starting My Own Business
This has been something that’s been on my mind for a while. As a web designer, I work with a lot of businesses across the world and there have been numerous times when I’ve thought to myself ‘why am I not doing this?’. I know I could not only do it but I could do it SO much better than those I’m building the websites for (no T no shade). The issue for me is getting the funding for starting up and exactly what I would sell. I need to have a sit down with my husband and work out what we could do, something that we could manage while still maintaining full time jobs. If you have any suggestions, let me know!
03. Puppies. LOTS OF PUPPIES
I’m 99% sure I said to my husband on our first date that I wanted lots of dogs. He knows that if I had to choose between him or a dog, the dog would win. I was surrounded by dogs growing up and having my own dog living with me is the ULTIMATE goal in my life. If everything else goes tits up, at least I have an amazing dog. And I don’t just want one dog. I want at least two so they always have company. I just need to wait for my husbands parents cat to kick the bucket (we look after her when they go on holiday) and then I can FINALLY get a dog. The struggle is real.
When it comes to children, I don’t think my husband and I are on quite the same page. I like the idea of having a child but he’s not that keen on it. I love children but only other peoples kids in short bursts. When they start being little shits, I like to just hand them back and go home. But the idea of raising my own child, going on the school run and helping them grow up is something that appeals to me. It’s a huge commitment though which means your life changes forever. I wouldn’t be one of those parents who tries to fit their child into their existing lives. That’s not how it works. And I know that right now and for the foreseeable future, I’m not ready to give up the freedom I have now. But it is something that it’s going to be on my mind more and more as time passes.
05. Moving To Canada
When I was a kid, I always dreamed of living in a big city. Being from a small town, I always felt like a small fry in a big pond and would spend hours looking up countries online and on the Wii Weather Channel (don’t ask). After visiting Toronto earlier this year, I am now 100% certain that that is where I want to live. It’s bizarre really but I felt so at home the minute I got there. And that’s something really special, especially for a gay man who at times can feel uncomfortable in a post-Brexit UK. Financially, it’s not possible right now to move but I’m working on steps so my husband, the dogs and I can emigrate to Canada at some point. I’m not overly fussed on where I live in Canada, preferably the Toronto area but I’d be happy with Ottawa or Vancouver. It’s a really big step and something we’d need to consider in conjunction with getting dogs and having children.
These are just a few of the things that I am thinking about in regards to my future. All totally achievable right? But what’s life without challenges? But for today, it’s time to celebrate – happy birthday to me.